Wednesday, November 18, 2009

The Nature of Jealousy

Jealousy is a negative term that is used to refer to the ugly outcomes of negative emotions and anxiety. It is experienced by almost every person at one time in one’s life time. To some people jealousy is just too much for them to handle. When someone is jealous of you, you will notice it since it is written all over the face. In some instances someone will discourage you or even utter hurting words.
Jealousy is a big threat to any relationship whatsoever. It is often confused with envy but jealousy is more strong and self destructive. When someone is jealous the personality changes and deteriorates with time unless effort is made to control it. People may be tempted to think that jealousy is experienced by people who lack but even those who have more than they need feel it too. In fact if anything, those who have feel it even more for fear of losing what they have. They fear being overtaken by others who might take their position.
In a relationship, it starts with little petty things like, hair style, clothing, social life, etc it becomes even worse when a person is too dependent on another. When someone withdraws support from the other, a feeling of desperation sets in which stirs up jealousy. Jealousy heightens mistrust in a relationship and hence an impudent behavior. In most circumstances when things get to such an extent, the relationship becomes sore to a suffocating extent of breaking up.
` When jealousy is too much in a person’s life, loss of self esteem is experienced. It belittles one’s sense of self integrity and purpose in life. It is dangerous since it is possible to do things that might lead to regrets later in life. Jealousy needs to be avoided at an early stage before it reaches a destructive stage. There are stages where the victim finds fault in everything that goes around. Instead of appreciating all the good things happening in life, he/she despises even the most precious things in life.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Acquiring The Best

The best things in life are lost and not likely recovered because of constant complains “I am too busy” What happens today if you are told, you only have one year left? The answer is simple we cannot do everything in life but the good thing is, we have the freedom to choose what to do. The life of any human being is surrounded by the best choices that make life worth living.
Apart from the basic necessities and the daily routines, there are more interesting things that make life interesting. Life is short that is no hidden fact owing to this fact, it can either be nasty or interesting depending on the road we take. At times we make wrong choices and spend the rest of our lives cursing ourselves. The common mistake that most of us do is concentrating on the future or the past until we miss out on the most important things.
The best things in life don’t come in a silver platter, they are carefully selected. If you are looking for a machine, select the best, if you are looking for a life partner look for the best. It is not fair to do things because other people are doing the same. The secret of making your life better is by discovering what works best for you and go ahead with it. Discover your potential since obviously everybody has a unique niche in life. Ones you discover your niche pursue it with a lot of passion. Concentrate on your strength and ameliorate your life.