When the lips say YES and the heart says NO!

It is worthwhile to be honest even if not to everyone at least to your self. Living a lie is expensive because you strive so much to please another person while you suffer inside. When you commit your lips to say yes, you have already interfered with the results. An honest No is equals to an honest Yes. If every time you are asked to do something you say yes, then anyone will question. It would be very difficult for someone to always trust your yes if he/she has never heard your No.
I have a reason to believe that when the heart says No it actually means it. If the lips would interfere with the heart and says yes, it already means failure. You may think that you are pleasing someone while in real sense you are actually hurting. Declaring your stand is the most honorable and respectable thing one can ever do. It makes you to not only feel good but to also look good. It also shows that you are independent minded and responsible for your life. Many people face challenges after saying yes since they did not mean it. Usually when this happens someone makes so many errors or take too long to accomplish a given task since the heart is not at peace with the lips.
When you work for someone regardless of who he/she is, it is always good to declare your stand. If you fail to do this, there is likelihood that you will be misused and you will have yourself to blame for this. Same case applies to relationships one spouse can look down upon the other since every decision would be made by one person. If what your spouse suggests you go by it even when it is wrong it means your opinion doesn’t matter. This is the reason why some relationships do not last long. When you do not challenge and make an impact in a relationship you cease to be seen important.
It is important to give two sides of the coin about yourself this will bring out your personality. If everything is centered on wanting to please others people will know who you really are. Let your heart speak for you and you will never regret anything.

Living up to Your Dreams

Living up to one’s dreams is a rewarding accomplishment. During childhood everyone dreamt about what they would like to be when they grow up. It was a happy moment since as a child all dreams were taken seriously. Those who guard their dreams from childhood to adulthood are quite few. As we grow up things change physically, emotionally and mentally depending on what we exposure ourselves to. Influence of parents and the environment can change our dreams. This is the reason why some people settle at less than their potential. An independent minded person is likely to live up to his/her dreams since he/she is able to guard them from discouragements. It is worthwhile for people to understand that living your dream is not an easy task. It takes courage and energy to push dreams to a reality.
When someone commits himself to live up to his/her dreams, it means that such a person is a risk taker. People fear taking risks hence they limit themselves from achieving their dreams. A risk taker is able to identify opportunities available and use them to reach his dreams. When deciding to follow dreams, there are no limits to life time goals no matter the obstacles that come on the way. Focusing on the dreams means you believe that all dreams make a reality in the end.
What deprives people of the courage to live up to their dreams is the fact that they lack confidence in themselves. Many watch their dreams die slowly without making an effort to revive them. There is no limit to how much we should dream, everyone is entitled to dream regardless of age. Dreams are a source of prosperity in life, when you achieve one you look forward to achieving the next. Achieved dreams are a source of happiness in a person’s life the more you dream the more you increase chances of improvement.

Having the Right Attitude

Attitude is one amongst the most important attributes to a successful future. A person with the right attitude motivates his/her self and others to see opportunities that may otherwise be overlooked. During difficult situations, people with poor attitude are at risk of giving up but it takes the right attitude to see an opportunity out of it. Attitude may be as small as it appears but, it is what lies between success and failure. It distinguishes one person from the other since a bad attitude is noticeable from a distance and often ignored. People desire to be successful and would always look for people with the right attitude to partner with.
When a person has the right attitude nothing can stand in the way to a fruitful future. When there are difficulties in such a person’s life, there are always options to reach desired goals. The right attitude means positive thinking and hence everything else follow suit. A positive thinker is a confident person who always believes that nothing is impossible. When you start thinking positively, it means you have already achieved half of your goals.
A person with the right attitude is a leader and a mentor. When a person goes through a difficult situation and comes out victorious then that become a motivation to others. In that case, such a person is expected to understand other people and help them improve on their attitude. Having the right attitude is enough to gain one respect from the society. When people find it easy to interact with you and share their problems, it means you have the right attitude.

A creative mind

Creativity is what makes everything interesting in life. It all starts in the mind, what the mind can think and create is what makes a person creative. What brings about the differences in people lives is how creative and innovative they are. Creativity is not only evident in technology, artistic work, music etc it cuts across every aspect of a person’s life including social life. Cases in point there are people who are more likable than others and are more influential than others. The secret behind their social popularity is creativity. A creative person knows the interests of the society and therefore behaves accordingly as the situation befits.
A creative mind finds joy in everything that he or she does. With creativity life is meaningful since a creative mind see beyond what the normal eye sees. A creative mind is surrounded by resources and opportunities that are invisible to others. When others struggle for things that are beyond their reach, a creative mind begins with what is available and slowly progresses. It does not mean that for you to succeed you need to know people who are in higher positions, creativity will get you there. A creative mind never lucks work to do no matter how hard situations get. Such a person’s life is well planned and achievable targets are set. Everyday ends with an achievement and proceeds from one level of success to another. There is no way a creative person achievements reach satisfactory, it moves from one level to another. Once one achievement has been accomplished another one comes in and so on.

Taking an initiative

An initiative is the responsibility of taking it upon one’s self to do something rather than waiting for someone to do it for you. It comes at a point when you realize there is no miracle in success. All successful people take an initiative in life by realizing that they are on their own. Our parents, relatives and friends may be there for us but everyone has to run his or her own race in life. The most challenging part in living a successful life is taking an initiative and once you are past this stage other things would just come along. Many would be tempted to say I am waiting for God to answer my prayers and so they live hoping that God will do it for them. The bible says when you ask it shall be given to you knock and the door shall be open to you. If these statements are true, how come there are beggars on the streets, I am sure that even beggars believe in God. There is no point waiting for eternity for a prayer to be answered when you can take your own initiative to do it.

Gratitude

Gratitude is a word that means appreciation. It is that which is not only said by a word of mouth but also by action. It brings a feeling of joy in parties involved. It wipes away guilt and brings peace within the heart. When you open your mouth to say “thank you” you have already created a clear environment for a good relationship. Many people who are grateful always receive blessings on their way. Anything good that comes in life deserves gratitude no matter how little it is. When we mess up our lives we are tempted to curse but a focused mind will have nothing to curse about. It takes gratefulness to bring that which is lost and console a fruitful source. The lives that we posses are not ours, we live by chance today we have and tomorrow we don’t. While others go down on their knees in gratefulness seeking for more blessings, others are busy taking pride in what they already have. Although gratitude sounds like a positive thing we tend to take it for granted yet there is more than meets the eye. When we succeed in life we tend to forget where we have come from. Life takes twists and turns, some times we are up there, sometimes just hanging, barely hanging on and sometimes next to nothing. Gratitude will always keep us on track.

True meaning of happiness

Are you living a happy life? It is a question that most people should ask themselves. It is difficult to know by just looking at a person’s face whether they are happy or not. It is unusual to see a sad face but when you see one, still it is ambiguous. People are different, there are those who see nothing to smile or laugh about but this does not mean they are not happy, yet there are those who are extremely jolly but live very unhappy lives. Question is what makes people happy? Is it money, wealth, class, fame, gender, age, achievements? If this is a way of judging happiness then what about those people who are poor, insane, sick, disabled? Does it mean that they are unhappy?
The bible states in the presence of God there is fullness of joy. Personally I have been in church and still I find myself still living unhappy life. And I am sure I am not the only one. So, what seems to be the true meaning of happiness? Celebrities have all the fame they need and of course money but some of them are not happy or were not happy a good example is Michael Jackson. The poor live their lives wishing they were rich often they would be heard saying when I become rich I will be happy. When riches come they are always accompanied by unhappiness so, what is the true meaning of happiness.
Recently I discovered happiness lies in the inner peace. If you don’t have this no matter who you are, what you are, what you possess you will never be happy, never!!